When you’re in a relationship, it’s easy to get your feelings hurt. But how long do you hold onto those feelings? Or is it just easier to forgive?
As you know I’ve spent a lot of time analyzing those hurt feelings in my Meet the Exes Mondays posts, though it certainly doesn’t make me any kind of psychology expert. But the other day, I received an e-mail from a reader and psychology Ph.D. student at the Australian National University looking for some help with her research.
And who better to help than some of Miss Attitude’s friends and fans? So meet Jodie Burchell:
Jodie runs the Hurt Lab where she’s conducting online studies for her research project.
“I have always been fascinated at the way that people can change (for better and for worse) in romantic relationships, and I feel that emotions are at the core of these transformations. People describe, when undergoing emotions such as jealousy and hurt, as feeling ‘out-of-control’ and acting like a different person,” she said. “I am curious about why people act in ways that often make the situations worse, and by extension, apply these findings to help people have better relationships.”
Participants need to be 18 years or older and be currently involved in a romantic relationship to participate. Wait, there goes Miss Attitude! That’s why I’m counting on some of you to help Jodie out.
Image courtesy: www.hurtlab.com
There are two online questionnaires at www.hurtlab.com for the study. It’s important to keep in mind both surveys will take you 45 minutes to an hour to finish. You can’t save your answers and come back later to finish, so you’ll want to set aside an hour of your time to fill both out.
If you have the time to participate, let me know how it goes. You can also read more about Jodie’s initial research which found forgiveness comes easier with romantic partners than it does with friends. What do you think?
Stylishly yours,
Miss Attitude
Tags: attitude, dating, forgiveness, hurt, hurt lab, Jodie Burchell, love, meet the exes, miss attitude, psychology, relationships
I agree and disagree. I think it depends on how your friend or boyfriend hurt you. I know I have stopped talking to friends b/c of things they have done to me. But the way I look at it, is that means they were not a good friend to begin with, if I could just write them off so easy. But I LOVE Ms. Attitude!!!
I’ve always believed that you can’t change a person but I’ve seen many who make it their life’s work to try.
I agree with Miss Sassy. If a friend is hurting me it’s better to cut the loss and walk away and if I can do that, they really weren’t the good friend I thought they were.
Oh and I love Miss Attitude too!
Sometimes when it’s a romantic relationship it’s too hard to give up the booo-Tay. Have to think with your head so you’re not ” lookin like a fool with your pants on the ground!”