So after my recent run in with Mr. Twin Bed– which by the way resulted in a voicemail message saying how great it was to see me, how I looked good, it would be great to catch up sometime, blah blah blah– I started giving more thought to a rule I created after I dated him.
It’s the baggage rule. All emotional baggage must be able to fit in the overhead compartment or under your seat, just like the baggage rule on an airplane.
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If you have to pay extra to check your baggage, then the red flag should go up. Immediately.
Now, look I know I’m not perfect. And as a friend, recently pointed out to me, we are all “dented” in some way. But what I have a real problem with is the men (though I’m sure this applies to many women too) who give the appearance of breezing on that plane appearing very carefree and not weighted down by much of anything.
Then the next thing you know, there’s 50 pounds just waiting for you to have to wade through. And by then you’re probably already hooked, perhaps even so head over heals you don’t want to acknowledge it.
The worst part with a lot of these guys is, you can’t just tell by looking at them. And from what I can deduce, they either try really hard not to tell you what’s in all that baggage, or they’re just in denial that it exists in the first place.
Stylishly yours,
Miss Attitude
Tags: attitude, baggage, dating, miss attitude, single
Baggage is like that room in your house that everyone has, you know, one that you have all your crap dumped in and it’s a mess and you don’t want anyone to see it. So you close the door and when friends come over you don’t let them in it.
That’s what I think of when talking about baggage.
Everyone has some sort of baggage, some more so than others.
If someone tells you they have none I don’t think it’s the truth.
I think it’s more about how they have dealt with their baggage along the way. Some people deal with it which helps them over come and learn from it and others just sweep it under the carpet and hope the carpet never gets lifted or moved to reveal the dirt. It’s the ones who just sweep it under the carpet you want to try to avoid.
I agree with Topsurf. Everyone has baggage, but so many people try to shove it in the closet and close the door so they can pretend it doesn’t exist. Then one day, you open that closet dor just a crack and BAM! It all comes tumbling out.
Anyone who says they have no baggage should be avoided at all costs!
OMG! did you write this post about me (well not me but a certain boy not to be named?) haha! I really can not say it any better than topsurf. In my case he had his baggage hidden until I decided to fall for him. Do not think he even knows how much his baggage weighs.
Everyone needs to have an emotional garage sale every now and then… Sell that old baggage that is no use to you anyway and just get rid of it. It’s just clutter in your life, right? And when I mean sell it… I mean release it mentally… clear your head of it, free your mind and look forward. There’s always a tomorrow!