I can not tell a lie. It’s mostly because I feel guilty, but I also have no poker face. So I want to be clear, the fact that I’m in a relationship isn’t a lie. In fact, I’m in a lot of relationships. Relationships with my friends, my family and heck, sadly my iPad too!
The other day I decided to do an experiment on Facebook by changing my relationship status to “In a relationship.” I want all of you to know I didn’t mean this to be malicious. I was just curious about the obsession of relationship status on Facebook. I recently saw a “friend” change her status to married during her own wedding events. I couldn’t help but think if I, heaven forbid, ever get married somebody should shoot me if I even log onto Facebook on that day. In fact, if I’m even touching my iPhone or iPad, slap me.
Don’t get me wrong, I love social media. But sometimes you really have to live in the moment and enjoy the people around you, not update your Facebook every minute. We’re all guilty of it, but sometimes enough is enough.
The other reason I decided to try this “In a relationship” status experiment is that as a single 37-year-old woman it gets tiring when people ask you if you have a boyfriend all the time or when I’m going to get married. It’s even gotten to the point that half of my family thinks I’m a lesbian, not that there’s anything wrong with that.
While it would be great to meet someone amazing to have in my life, I don’t want to settle just so I can say I have a boyfriend. If you’ve read my Meet the Exes posts, you know I’ve had some doozies already. But I digress.
So within minutes of changing my Facebook status, the “like” button was getting clicked and clicked. Within a three or four hours, 34 people liked my status and then the comments started too. The funny thing is a few of these people I had talked to earlier in the week. They should know me well enough to know I would have shared something like this with them before announcing it on social media.
As one of my friends pointed out, “Of course, realize that you are usually so vocal when you’re dating, that for you to show up ‘in a relationship’ with nobody knowing/having heard anything about a new guy, it would be bound to attract extra interest. ”
Fair enough. But I still couldn’t help but being fascinated with the fact that something like a relationship status update could create such a buzz. Especially since I often post things that are much more important in my life and I get crickets. I just think perhaps we put too much emphasis on the importance of dating or marriage. Many of us, single or not, have major life-changing events going on that go without much recognition.
So I’m sorry to disappoint my friends and readers, I’m not in a serious dating relationship with man, but I am in many relationships that are much more important to me right now. I’m grateful for the people who support me through good times and bad much more than they probably no.
And in case you’re wondering, I’m back to no